“I’m just a girl living in captivity…”. Uh, then walk out of the cage sweetie and live your life, eh?
Let me start out by saying that I am a 24-yr old African American woman. This is very important, so keep this in mind as you read this. I just want to say from the beginning, “Don’t worry. I get it.”
So I wandered outside on the first day of PodCamp Boston with my cohorts @alwills, @sooz and @npeterson and into, basically, the 1950s. Not really. That’s more of an exaggeration. Kinda. Basically, there was a discussion going on on the grass about women in social media. “Where are all the women social justice gurus?” “Why aren’t they speaking at the conference?” Both very good questions, of course. But then the conversation turned to the idea that women cannot break through the glass ceiling imposed by men. This is where they lost me. Well, actually, they lost me when we were informed that white boys are the only class of people who can be openly judged and discriminated against…but whatever.
I really have a problem with the idea that I’m oppressed. Through statistics and stories, a picture was painted of a world where women are held back by men and can’t get ahead at all, a world where men stand on pedestals as the chosen people and women look up at a world that they will never be able to live in. Seriously, I’m playing the world’s smallest pink violin.
I’ll say it again. I have a problem with the idea that I’m oppressed. I don’t comprehend the idea that there are things that I cannot do. That is not an option. I really believe that there were not a lot of women speakers at PodCamp because there wasn’t a lot of communication about the idea that people could do sessions. I’m sure that there are tons of women in social media. I mean, look at mommy bloggers, a movement that I totally respect for a few reasons. One, they are a community, Two, they make time to blog and raise kids. I can’t barely remember to blog and take a shower. So, yeah. But to say that there aren’t a lot of women in social media due to men is bogus.
There was also a statistic going around that while men over-exaggerate their skills, women downplay their skills. Really, who’s fault is that? If you want someone to know that you’re good at something, then why would you lie and say you sucked at it? That doesn’t make any sense. It’s like there are some women that are trapped in their vaginas and can’t look beyond being a woman to being…a person. If I defined myself by my gender, or my race, and then lived my life looking through glasses that only showed things related to those things, then I wouldn’t see much of life.
I made a comment in my PodCamp post that “self-hate isn’t sexy”. Basically, I feel that by considering some aspect of who you are a hindrance to progress, you are committing self-hate, and really, that’s #notagoodlook.
Basically, being a girl rocks. But I’m more than just a girl. Just like I’m more than an African-American. I’m a social media rockstar and I support the entire community. I don’t hold it against male bloggers that they have penises, because really, I have more balls than a lot of guys out here, and I’ve proven it several times over. Now, add that to your statistics.